Saturday, April 08, 2006

A Most Romantic Man

Men may think romance to women is all about the wining, the dining and the diamond jewelry. Sometimes it is. But true romance is when the bottom falls out of your life, and your man is there for you 24/7.

Deborah Icenhour won a contest called "The Most Romantic Man in The South" with an essay about her husband David's gentle and loving care for her when she was diagnosed with breast cancer last April.

She says, "True romance is not flowers and candlelight dinners. It comes from the heart in the form of kindness, love, friendship, understanding, and patience."

Read this touching story here and try not to cry your heart out!

Friday, April 07, 2006

What is it about anniversaries and gambling?

A short while ago I posted about a couple who won $667,000 with a winning Lotto ticket bought on their 12th anniversary.

Now, Carmalee Wolf of Lodi, CA won $500,000 on a penny slot machine on her 30th anniversary!

Seems to still be a lucky day for some couples!

Thursday, April 06, 2006

Marriage Is Just Another Job

Men, good news! Forget about becoming more sensitive to your wife's feelings, pretending to care about those long talks about feelings, heck, don't even worry about your own feelings anymore!

While modern therapy has suggested that men do all of the icky stuff above, which turns your average guy's guts inside out, Scott Haltzman, a psychiatrist, has a better idea: you're good at solving problems, "fixing" stuff, so do what you do best and apply it to your marriage.

It's actually a lot of work, but he thinks that men should take advantage of their logical orientation, make observations and create to-do lists. In other words, treat your marriage like a job.

His The Secrets of Happily Married Men: Eight Ways to Win Your Wife's Heart Forever offers eight ways to approach your wife and marriage on terms that will make more sense to you...and ultimately offer more happiness to the both of you. And at under $15, it's a heckuva lot cheaper than marriage counseling!

Right off the bat, the first way is "Make Your Marriage Your Job," and he proceeds to give marriage a job description. I can't promise you this is going to be as easy as it sounds, but it will give you a truly male perspective from which to approach your marriage and problems.

Craig Stoltz of the Washington Post gives a good rundown of the Eight Secrets.

Tuesday, April 04, 2006

80 Years of Marriage

Well, what could possibly follow a post on 70, 60 and 50 years of marriage?

George (101) and Shigeyo (96) Yamasaki of Auburn, CA were married 80 years ago on March 19. And all Shigeyo could say to her daughter about it was, "Eighty years - we've been together 80 years?"

They made it through the Depression, life in an internment camp and raised seven kids while running a farm. Six of their children are still alive. Their parents arranged their marriage and they met only once before they were married. He was 21, she was 16.

3 Long-Range Plans

I think it's a good thing that we can't see into the future because we might not do things because we didn't see far enough. Here's 3 short stories on three happy couples who put in 70, 60, and 50 years together.

John and Elizabeth: how they managed
"It's a marriage made in heaven. She's got to look at my side. I've got to look at her side. Then we combine it."

Was it love at first sight?
Just before heading overseas for World War II, Robert spotted Lorraine at a USO dance. He walked over to say hi. "I was lonely," he says. "She looked lonely, too." It wasn't exactly love at first sight. Recalls Lorraine: "I said to my girlfriend, 'Uh oh, here comes a hick.' " Three months later they were engaged.

John and Shirley: who's the boss?
"I'm the president. She's the vice president, secretary and treasurer," he says. "Each office carries one vote. When we decide, I cast my vote. She casts her three."