Tuesday, February 28, 2006

When losing your virginity once is not enough...

Thought that once a woman lost her viriginity, it was a done deal? Hah, there's nothing that a good plastic surgeon can't reconstruct!

A hymenoplasty reconstructs the hymen and its star-shaped center so that a woman will go through the "first time" pain and bleeding again. A reconstructed hymen does not make you a virgin again--technically, spritually, physically--once you give it up, it's gone forever.

A young woman can accidentally stretch or tear her hymen from a fall, athletics (such as cycling, horseback riding or gymnastics) or from the use of tampons, and due to ethnic or relgious reasons, may want to have her hymen intact again before she marries.

Some cultures value virginity so highly that a woman will not be able to be married without the semblance of virginity. This procedure is very popular in Latin America and the Middle East, but is fast becoming popular in the U.S.

This is not a procedure that will help a woman improve her sex life, although many women hope it will do just that, due to shady marketing practices.

Why would an older woman have a hymenoplasty? Jeanette Yarborough decided virginity would make a great 17th anniversary gift to her husband!

Thursday, February 23, 2006

Seniors in love: commited, but no marriage plans

Here's a wonderful story about an older couple who fell in love, but aren't getting married.

Some of us see our parents going through this situation, either divorced or widowed, meeting a love later in life but not wanting to get married as there can be too many legal and financial complications. They want to keep their own assets, make sure their own children inherit something, previous Social Security benefits may be lowered, the list goes on.

How do you feel about a parent living with someone and not getting married?

Wednesday, February 22, 2006

Same-sex marriage is the result of marriage?

The Rev. Donald Sensing, pastor of the Trinity United Methodist Church in Franklin, TN blames The Pill for leading to same-sex marriage.
In conclusion, he says:
If society has abandoned regulating heterosexual conduct of men and women, what right does it have to regulate homosexual conduct, including the regulation of their legal and property relationship with one another to mirror exactly that of hetero, married couples?

I believe that this state of affairs is contrary to the will of God. But traditionalists, especially Christian traditionalists (in whose ranks I include myself) need to get a clue about what has really been going on and face the fact that same-sex marriage, if it comes about, will not cause the degeneration of the institution of marriage; it is the result of it.

Read the entire article at the Opinion Journal.

More people wanting to get married is better, no? It's going to be interesting to see if gay marriages outlast hetero ones down the line.

A $667,000 anniversary gift they'll never forget

Couples search for that unique "something extra" to celebrate their wedding anniversary, but the unexpected gave Dwight and Jeanie Walton of Kentucky the surprise anniversary gift of a lifetime.

They celebrated their 12th anniversary with a romantic dinner at a local restaurant and on the way home, decided to buy a couple Powerball quick pick tickets at a convenience store. The next morning, they found out that they had matched 5 numbers. The usual $200,000 prize had swelled to $667,142 because of the size of the prize pool.

One heckuva way to top off an anniversary celebration!

Monday, February 20, 2006

I've heard of pre-nups, but nothin' like this. . .

You may have heard about Travis Frey, an Iowa man accused of kidnapping his wife (and downloading child porn) and the insane marriage contract that he expected her to follow. You can't say this man is crazy, because his list is so thorough and methodical from how often his wife should shave everything (every 3 days), allowing her to keep 5 pairs of non-thong panties during her menstrual cycle and a requirement that half her shoe purchases must be 2" or greater high heels. But he did offer "good behavior days" where she would be relieved of duties to him.

Of course, this is not a "marriage contract" but a sex slave contract.

Frey's lawyer denies that his client wrote the four page Contract of Wifely Expectations. Ladies, don't read this near your loving hubby, as you may freak and accidently take it out on the wrong man!

The power of love may help Alzheimer patients

Your wedding day was one of the happiest days of your life (hopefully) and an Edmonton, Canada care center, McConnell Place North, has been re-enacting wedding ceremonies to help stimulate Alzheimer patients memories. It's a unique approach and there's no scientific proof that it works, but at the very least, it shows how strongly a loving memory can impact a severe illness.

If you have a parent suffering with Alzheimers, perhaps this is something you could suggest to their care provider.

Please post your story or e-mail me here if you receive a positive response from a care provider.

CBC.ca news story

Sunday, February 19, 2006

How did Madonna celebrate her 5th anniversary?

By getting very drunk, according to the Sun-Sentinel.

"I usually have rather grand affairs: I insist that all my friends put on shows in my country house, or I have a big party in the city, or we go back to Scotland, where we got married.

"But this time I decided to do it very low-key."

I, I, I, I: I think the problem is obvious.

Yes, the Ritchies are having mucho problems. Do you think they'll last as long as Bill and Lil Ritchie of Kentucky, married in April, 1919? They were one of the couples who held the Guinness World Record for longest married couple in 2002.

That was a very good year for longest marriages.

77th wedding anniversary and still going strong

Fred (102) and Gwen (101) Landis were married in October, 1928 and their love is still going strong. What's the secret to their marital bliss?

Both agree on commitment. "Sure, we've had squabbles and disagreements galore," Fred said. "But there's a commitment to marriage because we have a reverence to it."

Read their sweet Valentines Day story

A miracle of love

A tale of love that was meant to be against all odds: a young boy, starving in a Nazi concentration camp, was helped to survive by a young girl who tossed him apples and bread every day for months. And they miraculously met again on a blind date.

Saturday, February 18, 2006

A gift is a gift is a gift...not

Do you know what your wife really wants for an anniversary gift?

It's one of those four letter words: Your love. With a little icing on top, please.

What does your wife truly want for an anniversary gift? She says "no" but does she mean "yes" or the other way around? Her final answer: yes and no.

So what's a husband to do about a meaningful wedding anniversary gift?

Right off the bat: it's not how much you spend (most of the time), but how much love she perceives is attached to your gift. No wife will turn her nose up at a diamond heart pendant or ring, but do you want to increase its "love" value? Or are you short on cash and long on love?

The solution is simple: it's all in the packaging. Your wife will treasure any romantic gesture that shows you put in extra time or thought with your anniversary gift. You may be thinking that "I'm not creative" or "I don't have any special talent." You don't have to do something extraordinary, you only have to show her it came from your heart. That's what's going to win you a home run, slam dunk and touchdown all at once.

A few ideas:

  • A love letter. No matter how lousy a writer you are, your original words are as good as gold. Guaranteed. If a love letter seems too difficult, write shorter love notes with only a line or two and fill a heart shape keepsake, music box or jewelry box (if you bought a jewelry gift) with them. Or mail her a new one every day for two weeks before your anniversary.

  • If she loves photos, go through your albums and make reprints of your favorites. Write a short love note on the back, which can be as simple as, "Remember when we did this? We had so much fun!" Hide them in her purse, lingerie drawer or briefcase, tape onto the coffee maker or inside the refrigerator. Or mail her one a day.

  • Cook up a romantic dinner for two. Order in a meal if you're not the chef type. Decorate with candles, flowers and mood music. You're the basic food type? Make heart burgers with a cookie cutter or simply create with your hands.

  • Visit your local crafts store. You'll find plenty of heart themed items to wrap or present your gift in. Buy a heart shape box and use a glitter pen to write "I love you always" or "Happy Anniversary to the love of my life." Or buy small decorative stones and write words of love, your names and anniversary date on them. Give in a keepsake box.

  • Do you love working outdoors? Create two interlocking hearts with decorative stones and fill the center with cement. Write your names and anniversary date on the wet cement. Or fill with ground cover. Carve two hearts in your shrubbery.

  • Is this a milestone year? Decorate your car as if you were just getting married, but make a banner that says, "Married 5 (or 10, 20) years and loving it! Take her out for a romantic anniversary dinner.

  • Do you use PowerPoint in your job? Create a love presentation and present it as you would to a client. List all the qualities you appreciate about your wife and marriage and then give a short speech about each one.

  • You're a computer programmer? Build her an online store where she can "buy" love gifts from you. They can be kisses, hugs, a night out (or a night in), make dinner, whatever little treats she loves. The checkout basket will allow her to print out a coupon that she can redeem with you. Or maybe a trivia game about your fun times together or a "Love Poll."

  • Not a programmer but adept with computers? Burn a CD with a slideshow of photos from the time you were married. Add background music. There are tons of free slideshow software demos on the Internet.

  • You're a financial whiz? Create a "Love Account" sheet or a stock portfolio listing your love investments together. Print out and frame.

  • Love sports stats? Make up a list of love stats. Title it, "The (your name) and (her name) Love Team. Stats can include dates when you met (or approximate), marriage date, birth of kids, trips, special moments. Print out and frame.

  • Sports fan? Do a fun, sexy cheerleader routine before you present your anniversary gift.

  • Remember that 1997 film, "The Full Monty" where a bunch of ordinary working guys put together a strip show to earn money? Yes, put on a private strip show for your wife. Give her "love" coupons she can stuff your thong with.

  • If that's over the top for you, read a short love note and sing a romantic song dedicated to your wife and anniversary at a karaoke bar.

You don't have to give a polished performance or create something with a professional appearance. Think about what you enjoy doing and simply put a romantic spin on it. Your love and enthusiasm will help you create an extra special wedding anniversary gift for your wife that she'll always cherish.

Monday, February 13, 2006

Free last minute Valentines Day gift

What's the one gift most women want more than anything, be it wedding anniversary, Valentines Day and especially...just because? A love letter.

Yes, it means spilling your guts, reaching into your heart and squeezing tight--all those emotional trauma thingies that many men would trade off nearly anything to not face. Here's a quickie love letter primer.

You already bought a Valentines Day gift, but it's still missing that je ne sais quoi? Want to increase its value to priceless? Present it with a love letter. Don't have fancy paper? Download a printable love letter background. Still having trouble coming up with one? Make up a love list instead. Here are Top 10 love list backgrounds.

You know those "honey-do" lists? Try a do-honey list. I'll bet this is one list your honey won't ever lose!

So what is it about staying married?

It ain't easy, that's for sure. I was married for 20 years and neither regret the marriage...nor the divorce. My marriage was a jigsaw puzzle with too many pieces that never fit, but my ex-hubby and I continue an amicable, but distant, friendship.

I love to see how two people can remain married or committed over the years. To say "I want to be married" at this stage of the game for me is putting the cart before the horse. "A husband" becomes an item to tick off on my Check List of Life. This was probably a consideration when I was younger. Not anymore.

The longest marriage I've read about recently is a couple who celebrated their, gasp! 71st wedding anniversary on February 9th. A big congrats to Mr. and Mrs. Dick Sembach of Glenwood, Indiana! Post a congrats note there.

Read these very simple "stay married" tips offered by this couple who celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary last year. Can it really be this simple?

Ditto on Carlton and Vernabelle Kastberg who just celebrated their 60th anniversary. Carlton says, "Yes, we’ve had our spats, but we have never gone to bed not speaking.” This is one of the oldest pieces of Marriage 101 advice given, but I wonder how many people actually practice it?